The Problem with Telling People You Write Books
It goes a little like this:
Me: Yeah, I love writing. I’m working on a few books at the moment, and I’m pretty excited abou-
Person 1: YOU WRITE BOOKS? WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU WRITING?!?! I KNOW WE JUST MET BUT, LISTEN, YOU’RE LIKE MY BEST FRIEND. SO ARE YOU GOING TO LET ME READ YOUR BOOK OR WHAT????????????
Me: Well, um, I’m not really sharing it with many people right now, so-
Person 1: AW, COME ON! THAT’S NO FAIR! I KNOW THAT YOU’RE LETTING SOME PEOPLE READ IT. WHY CAN’T I? LET ME READ IT, PLEASE. HERE’S MY EMAIL ADDRESS! HEY YOU! YEAH, PERSON 2, DID YOU KNOW THIS GIRL WRITES BOOKS? SHE DOES, IT’S TRUE, SHE’S GOING TO LET ME READ THEM!
Me: I never said-
Person 2: OOH CAN I READ THEM? I WANT TO READ THEM TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Person 3: ME TOO!!!
Person 4: OH YEAH, COUNT ME IN!!!
Person 5: ME TOO!!!
This then escalates into people who I have not spoken to in years sending me their email addresses on facebook. No explanations or anything. Just messages with their emails.
It’s rude. I’m right, aren’t I? It’s extremely rude. I don’t understand how it even makes sense to them. I DO NOT TALK TO YOU. WE ARE NOT FRIENDS. It’s like inviting yourself over to a friend’s house. And not a close friend, either. An acquaintance. It’s like inviting yourself over to an acquaintance’s house, and then eating the cake in their refrigerator. Am I making sense? I think I am.
And, I mean, if they actually knew what the book is about and had a genuine interest in the book itself and not just the fact that I am a writer, I wouldn’t mind as much. But it bothers me when people just want to read it because they’re nosy. I mean, okay, thank you for your support. It means a lot to me. But, really, just stop. If I want you to read it now, when it’s still only a second draft, I will ask you to read it. You can be supportive without reading it.
Blah. I just don’t feel like handling it right now.
I think I’ll just ignore them. Problem solved.
Can anyone else relate? I can’t be the only writer that gets bothered by this type of thing.